Why Does Love Hurt So Much?

I'm sure you've heard the expression: Love Hurts. Why does love have to hurt so much?Truly, I wish I had the answer. When we go through a breakup, our eyes get puffy from lack of sleep and crying. Our chest hurts probably not so much from an actual breaking heart but more likely shortness of breath because we are in "fear" mode.Why Does Love Hurt So Much?Yes, when we lose someone we've been with for a while, we are losing love. Or, at least we are in fear that we are losing love. And, fear blocks love. When we go into that mode, it seems that we are creating more of what we don't want: less love.So, if you're hurting - and I can empathize with your pain - try to remember to keep breathing. Allow yourself to feel hurt, allow yourself to feel the loss, but remember than when you create a space in your life you might be allowing more love to come into your life in the not-so-distant future.Not only that, but sometimes we need to release things in order to grow. I think this is where most relationships fall down: expectation and attachment to things hoped for but not entirely real. It is those expectations that drive some people to drugs or alcohol, others to immerse themselves in their work, the kids, food, exercise, or any other number of obsessions to try to deal with unmatched expectation.The only thing I can say to you, if this is what you've been doing, is to consider releasing the expectation. Releasing the expectation is really the only opportunity to create a truly healthy, happy relationship, anyway.I'm not suggesting this so that you necessarily get back together. Just release it anyway and see how life unfolds.And, in the meantime, remember to keep breathing. Remember to do the things you love most. Remember to be loving to your friends and family who love you.I write these words with all the love in my heart, to you, who is hurting.The pain will recede over time. Life will go on, if you let it. Release control, take a deep breath, and let it out. Then do it again. Keep yourself busy with exercise. Clear out any clutter that's been blocking you from being healthy environment or creating unnecessary attachment, too. Once you do, you will feel more alive, more free, and more able to love with the WHOLE you again.

Can you love someone without "falling" for them?

I'm not sure if I love him or not. I don't desperately need him like Bella does Edward, I don't die when he's not there. I never went through the "falling" stage where you can't sleep and eat.But, I would love to open my eyes to see him in the morning and I imagine falling asleep in his arms would be be second to heaven. I could easily spend years with him. Being around him is like flying. It's hard to contain my smile, I could jump off a cliff with him by my side.Because of him, I notice how wonderful the world is. I notice how beautiful and amazing thing are, like music, the stars, the sun, the wind. I didn't ever notice these things before.I adore him and think he's the best thing to ever happen to me. I don't know what he sees in me, but being around him makes me walk tall for once in my life.When he's not there, I doubt myself and fall back into the insecure-old me. I don't die, but I find myself tripping over thought of him. If I'm upset and I picture him, I fall asleep peacefully.Can you love someone without "falling for them? Can you love someone so completely rationally? Can loving that person affect who you really are deep down inside, change your view on things?

What do love means?

One must understand whether "what is love" can be a question which can be answered? Love cannot be a question. For, if it is a question then an answer should be there. If the answer is there, where is it? This question is ancient and an answer should have been found by now! If the answer has been found, the question would have disappeared.
But the question still remains, meaning the answer has not been found. If it has not been found as yet, then what is the certainty that it will be found? Maybe the mind can never find the answer! A single answer, which will please all minds, is not possible for each mind has its own ideas of love. Hence a universal answer is an illusion.
Individual answers are there for love and for this very reason there are arguments about love for each mind will contradict the answer of another mind. This contradiction is normal for each mind lives in a different point in time. Hence "what do love means?" is an illusionary question, which has no answer!

What Is Love?

How do you define love?

Some say it's mysterious, magical, complex, difficult, imaginary, thought-provoking, inspirational, intuitional, joyous, immeasurable, ecstasy, and undefinable. Perhaps.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love is the answer to "all" questions!
It is important to stand in Love, not fall into it.
Love is waking up to find the object of your affection in the dream you were having asleep on your shoulder.
Could it be that Love is a story that can never be fully expressed?
Love is a bond or connection between two people that results in trust, intimacy, and an interdependence that enhances both partners.
Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.

Making Love is the highest level and the most loving way we can physically express or demonstrate our Love for our love partner. Everyone knows that the sexual experience can be the single most loving, most exciting, most powerful, most exhilarating, most renewing, most energizing, most affirming, most intimate, most uniting, most stress-relieving, most recreative physical experience of which humans are capable.

Logic says everything in this world has a cause and an effect. True Love is the only feeling which is its own cause and its own effect. It is something illogical and yet above all logic. I Love her because I Love her, and I Love her so I Love her.

Love is comforting someone in need of Love and having them know that somebody cares.
Love is looking past imperfections in your partner and seeing the beautiful person inside. True love seeks the happiness and well being of your partner. Love expresses itself in the mutual respect you demonstrate to your partner.

Love must be experienced. Its meaning is infinite and can never be totally defined.
The opposite of Love is fear. Think about it.
There is no fear in Love; but perfect love casts out fear.
God is love.
Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return; no judgments, no restrictions; no limitations; no expectations!
True Love is the nature of bliss.
Love is expressed when you are being someone who loves someone for who they are, not who you think they should be.
Love is embracing differences and discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and taking equal responsibility for the results.



If you want Love, you must first Love. Love begets Love. You cannot deliver from an empty wagon. You must first learn to Love yourself before you can give Love.
"If you Loved me, you would. . ." Not! Love is not manipulative. It must never be used to get others to do what you want. When you Love someone you never ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of Love. This form of manipulation contaminates our Love for another.

Love is to like with a great intensity.
True love has a foundation of integrity, respect, faith and trust. Love is the force that brings about unity and harmony.
Although love is at the root of our basic nature, Love for another human being must be cultivated. It takes time for Love to mature.
Is your love free and unconditional, or is it mixed with various needs, conditions and demands from your partner?
Love is embracing differences and discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and take equal responsibility for the results.
The road to self-discovery is paved with Love.
Love has no meaning other than the meaning "we" give it.
Perhaps. . . Love just Is. While in its allness and in its nothingness, all we need to do is simply let it Be.